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What Parents Should Do For Children To Do Their Best After
By Ruben Francia, Fri Dec 9th
Why do some children still do best after and separation?Is there parenting approaches that really work? Read andlearn the parenting approaches that really work. Going through the process of is a challenging lifetransition for both parents and children. During their parents'divorce, children often feel a wide variety of conflictingemotions. It is very important for parents to provide theirchildren with understanding and support. Overall, the childrenwho do best after and separation are those whose parentsdominantly employ 5 parenting approaches. They: 1. Listen to children and nurture an independent and empathicrelationship with each of them. 2. Fully support the children'srelationships with the other parent making them feel loved andwanted in both homes. 3. Develop positive strategies for settinglimits and imposing appropriate discipline. 4. Continue to holdreasonably high expectations for the children, regardless oftrying circumstances. 5. Shield the children from their parentaldisagreements and resentments.
Each of the above is presented here below in great detail. 1. Listen to children and nurture an independent and empathicrelationship with each of them. To better help our children we must first understand them. To beable to understand them completely, we need to listen and createan environment favorable for them to speak out. To make thingshappen, you need to: · Encourage your children to talk about how they feel. Let yourchildren know that they can openly talk to you about theirfeelings of your separation or divorce. · Keep lines ofcommunication open and answer all questions about the changes.Make sure your children feels like they can ask you questionsand get answers about why the happened and what toexpect. · Convey that you are genuinely interested in theirinput. This will make your children feel they are participatingin contributing to the process of recovering from the divorce. 2. Fully support the children's relationships with the otherparent making them feel loved and wanted in both homes. Research tells us that children benefit from keeping thefamilial ties in their life that were meaningful and importantto them prior to the divorce. Of these familial ties, the mostimportant are the child-parent ties. Remember that doesnot end children's need for parents or it ends your role asparent. You should: · Recognize that for your child to have the best chance ofgrowing up to be a functional human male or female, he/she willneed both parents as role models and nurturers. This means thatthere should be some pathway of getting through to the childwhatever good that parent has to offer. · Respect your child'sneeds to have both parents there for them, without having themworry that they are going to die of embarrassment if you bothstart to fight in public. Encourage the other parent to stayinvolved in the children's school and extra-curricularactivities. · Allow the children to enjoy the time that theyspend with each parent. Encourage your children to spend goodtimes with the other parent. Don't be jealous or upset, aschildren do not want to take sides and love one parent more thanthe other. · Help your children and ex-spouse have a successfulrelationship as just as you would help your children to succeedin school or sports. Remember that your ex-spouse is animportant part of your child's life. Just like you, yourchildren have a shared history with this person as well as thepresent and future. 3. Develop positive strategies for setting limits and imposingappropriate discipline. Often after a parents will either become stricter ormore lenient. Some parents feel like the other parent is lettingthe child get away with everything; therefore,
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they attempt toenforce discipline across both homes. Other parents do not wantto spend the limited time they have with their child punishingthem and tend to be too lenient. It can be difficult forchildren when their parents have drastically different rules andexpectations. To give the child a sense of stability andsecurity, you should do the following: · Maintain consistent routines. Children feel more secure whenthere is a standard routine. At times, some parenting issuesrequire communication and coordination between parents, if thechild spends time with both parents. Both parents don't have todo things exactly the same way, but it is easier for children ifmost things are similar at each home. · Set limits and rulesclearly, and enforces them. But within these limits do allowleeway for your children to be children. 4. Continue to hold reasonably high expectations for thechildren, regardless of trying circumstances. Help your children have positive feelings about themselves.Children who feel good about them usually succeed. They seem toget better grades in school, they are better at taking on hardjobs, and they try their best. Also, they tend to make betterfriends because they seem surer of themselves. As parents, youcan play an important role in helping children have positivefeelings about themselves. Here are some ways you can help yourchildren to feel good about them. · Help them learn to set realistic and reachable goals so theycan regularly achieve success. Praise them for success. · Giveyour children responsibility so that they feel useful, andvalued. Asking nothing of them implies that you think they arenot capable of doing a job well, which is demeaning. · Encouragethem to make decisions, and teach that they must acceptresponsibility for those decisions. 5. Shield the children from their parental disagreements andresentments. Stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other.Rumbles of discontent between parents leave children feelinginsecure. It is therefore so important for you and your partnerto try to agree on matters related to children and their needs.You can employ strategies such as: · Be able to step back and keep your feelings about yourex-spouse separate from those you have about your children'sparent. Many people make lousy husbands or wives, but they areterrific parents. · If you cannot be civil with your ex-spouse,then work out a plan and set up rules so that your child doesnot have to witness your wrath. Let your children feel with easerather than going through a gauntlet of your venom for eachother. · Get to work on resolving your feelings about yourex-spouse. That means if you can't get over this yourself, getsome help. Other people are suffering besides you, and thoseother people are your children! Certainly, some children still do best after andseparation. All their parents did were employing tested divorceparenting approaches that really work. You can raise healthy,happy and successful children even if you're divorced. Followthe above approaches for your children sake. Copyright by Ruben Francia. All Rights Reserved. Publishing Rights: You have permission to publish this articleelectronically, in print, in your ebook or on your website, freeof charge, as long as the author's information and web link areincluded at the bottom of the article. The web link should beactive when the article is reprinted on a web site or in anemail. Minor edits and alterations are acceptable so long asthey do not distort or change the content of the article. About the author:Ruben Francia is an author of an indispensable parentingguide ebook, entitled "101 Ways To Raise Your 'Divorced'Children To Success". Discover the ways to raising healthy,happy and successful children even if you're on divorced. Visithis web site at http://www.101divorceparenting.com
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