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By Karl Augustine, Fri Dec 9th
When making a decision, there are quite a few thingsthat you should consider. Too often people find themselvesunable to clearly identify what they need to think about whenmaking a decision which leads to further indecision andfrustration. When making a serious decision, having anopen mind and listing the things that will figure into yourdecision about divorce, will help make the process a littlesimpler for you. The things to consider when deciding about variessomewhat from person to person, but here is a list of the mostcommon items to contemplate: Divorce Decision Item 1: Making sure that you are emotionallyready to go through with a decision.
Not being really ready to decide about whether to get a divorcebecause of emotional uncertainty will be a serious obstacle ifyou let your emotions cloud your ability to reason or use logic.People often fear making a tough decision and there are manyreasons why people don't ever get around to actually making adivorce decision, which is often one of the toughest decisionsto make in life. If you aren't ready to handle the emotionalpain of what could be a "life changing" event like decidingabout divorce, wait until you can before going through yourdivorce decision making process. Divorce Decision Item 2: Making sure that the reasons fordivorce that you've listed regarding why you think you want adivorce are indeed valid. Too often people make the mistake of wanting to get a divorce(or thinking they want to get a divorce) for unviable reasons.This comes from being wrapped up with the idea of being hurt andfocusing on one's self rather than separating the actual eventsfrom the end results. Yes, it is very tough to elevate your thinking and be seeminglyautonomous to your own situation...in fact, it is oftenimpossible to do. But, if you can look at your situation withsomeone else in your place, and then go through your divorcedecision making process, you'll be closer to the real answerthat you want. Divorce Decision Item 3: Understanding that your sense ofself-confidence, ability to be 'self sustaining' with financesor other material things, and desire to 'start over' are allunwavering. This mix of considerations about can be overpowering forsome people when they try to 'break away' or make the decisionabout getting a divorce. Simply, these 'things to think about'intertwine and affect each other directly. Self-confidence isessential to being able to make a lucid decision, andyour level of self-confidence can easily be changed (for betteror worse) instantly. If this is the case, you should reallyre-think
whether you're ready to make a decision andfollow through with it. A lot of time, women in situations have to deal withfinance issues and they fear going out on their own becausethey've had financial support previously. Still, the fear oflosing finances or material things is not gender specific by anymeans...men and women alike need to decide if they are ready togo through financial loss to improve their lives if they feel adivorce will do so. Logic will lead you to the fact thatfinances shouldn't be the only piece of your decisioneven though it usually figures in...as to what level financesfigure into your decision, will depend on you and whatyou deem important. If your overall confidence and desire to start over with yourlove life support making a change, you're off to a good start inmaking a smart decision about whether to or not. Divorce Decision Item 4: Determining who else your divorcedecision will affect and how much weight that carries in yourdecision making formula about divorce. This item to consider when thinking about is one of theprimary things that can lead a person to a decision, one way oranother. Even though it can have serious negative repercussions,selfless people will take into account everyone else who will beaffected by a serious change like getting a divorce...it isfundamental portion of the overall process of making a smartdivorce decision. Children, in-laws, common friends, etc., allwill be affected by what you do regarding your action as aresult of you truly answering the question, "Should I Get ADivorce?". When making your decision about staying married or gettingdivorced, you should look to the future and decide whether yourdecision will improve or decrease your quality of life and thequality of life of those that will be affected. The number onereason given by people who want to get divorced but don't gothrough with it, stems from the fear that others will sufferfrom the divorce. Be very careful when assessing thissituation...make sure that you use logic and not emotion whenevaluating your thoughts. Making a decision is a serious and difficult taskbecause it is complex, deeply self-reflective, and frighteningdue to the length of time it can affect you and others. Makesure that you have your thoughts organized and prioritized andyou take your time in making a decision. About the author:Author of "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get ADivorce", the eBook recommended by counselors to thier clients.Proven "Actions Items" to help you decide! Get FREE Chapters! Divorce Decision
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