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What 10 Things Divorced Parent Should Do To Promote Positive
By Ruben Francia, Fri Dec 9th
The effects of recent enlargement in rates are negativeeffects. Divorced children are more probably to get pregnant asteenagers, drop out of high school, abuse drugs and haveaggressively emotional and behavioral problems, which lead tosocial problems. Some children decide to go out of their homewhen their parents separate each other, and subsequently theybecome homeless children. They do not have good opportunities tofind a job due to shortage of education. Consequently, crime maylikely be the end result. As parent, one of your top priorities is to reduce this negativeeffect and help your children have positive adjustment.Here are the 10 things you should do to promote positive divorcechild adjustment. 1. Do encourage your children to talk about how they feel.
The sure way to help your children adjust to is for youto know what they feel. So let your children know that they canopenly talk to you about their feelings of your separation ordivorce. Keep lines of communication open and answer allquestions about the changes. Make sure your children feels likethey can ask you questions and get answers about why the divorcehappened and what to expect. 2. Reassure children that everything will be ok but justdifferent. Children are invariably frightened and confused by divorce.Provide extra hugs and kisses and tell your child that you andother adults will always be near to love and protect. 3. Do stay involve in your children's life. Custodial and non-custodial parent should stay involve in theirchildren's life. Children may interpret lack of involvement asrejection. Often, they think the parent who is not involved intheir life loves them less. If your children are to adjust wellto your divorce, nurturing the parent-child relationship isparamount. Spend special time with your children, have funtogether and continually express your love for your children. 4. Do keep your ex-spouse from becoming an ex-parent. Many non-custodial parents, who typically are fathers, fail tostay involved with their children after the divorce. This isunfortunate as children's adjustment is enhanced by a positive,active relationship with both parents. If you are the custodial parent, you should encourage theinvolvement of the non-custodial parent even though it takesextra effort if a lot of anger is still present. It is a timewhen you must separate your spousal relationship from yourparenting relationship. This is hard, but it is possible. Youmust try not to "direct" your spouse's parenting patterns andconcentrate your efforts on smoothing access. 5. Do not argue with your ex-spouse in front of your child. Children exposed to conflict are more likely to have behavioraland emotional disturbances, suffer social and interpersonalproblems, and show impairment in their thought and reasoningprocesses. Experts say the amount of conflict the childwitnesses during and immediately after is a crucialfactor in his or her adjustment. When parents show better emotional adjustment after the divorce,so do the children. Children show much less anxiety, insecurityand distress when parents are able to argue in a proper manner,reach an agreement, and stick to the compromise. 6. Do keep routines consistent as much as possible. Children thrive on consistency and stability. During
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Parenting Through and After a Divorce
Issues of co-parenting through divorce and relationships with children to promote a healthy environment.
Recognizing Your Children's Needs
Recognizing your children's needs through a divorce.
Parenting After A Divorce
Parenting after a divorce can become an improvement!
Parenting After A Divorce
Parenting after a divorce can become an improvement!
Parenting And Young Children
Parenting through a divorce when children are young.
Parenting Divorce And Guilt
Parenting through divorce often presents with feelings of guilt.
Divorcing Parents Who Cooperate
Divorcing parents who cooperate make better decisions for the children.
Parenting Divorce Brings Changes
Parenting through divorce brings about many changes.
Parenting Divorce And Financial Issues
Parenting though divorce also brings about financial issues.
Divorcing Parents Working Together
Working together for your children's sake.
Common Interests: Your Children's Health And Well Being
Parenting through divorce requires each parent to relate in a different ways.
Parenting Through Divorce: A Sense Of Balance
Parenting through divorce will require a sense of balance.
Parenting Through Divorce: Parenting Planning
Parenting through divorce can be less stressful with a plan.
Preventing Behavior Problems In Children
Tips on understanding behavior problems in children.
Preventing Behavior Problems In Children
Your Child's Long Term Adjustment
Parenting Children Through Unexpected Challenges
Fostering a healthy longterm adjustment in children
The Grieving Process Of Divorce
The pain of divorce moves through a process
Adjusting To Your Divorce
New and changing relationships
Dealing With Your Feelings Of Loss And Anger
Letting go of your past relationship
Dealing With Your Feelings Of Loss And Anger
A parent cannot be replaced
Children Need Both Parents In A Divorce
Children generally adapt to change quite well
A Positive Divorce Experience For Your Child
Learn to deal with change
Doubt And Concern With Your Divorce
Lack of control and information
What Is Best For Divorcing Parents And Their Kids
Build wonderful memories with your children
Navigating Through The Divorce Process
Divorce is not always a negative transition
Divorce Brings Changes
Learning to respond to expressions of emotion
Divorce Brings Changes
Children react differently at different ages
How can I help my Infant and Toddler?
Infants and toddlers are affected by divorce
thetransition you need to demonstrate to the child that their lifewill not change dramatically. Having consistent routines (havinggenerally the same naptimes, mealtimes, bedtimes and bath-timeseach day) is important for young children, because it helps themto feel secure. At times, some parenting issues requirecommunication and coordination between parents, if the childspends time with both parents. Both parents don't have to dothings exactly the same way, but it is easier for children ifmost things are similar at each home. 7. Do make every effort to ease the transition of your childrenfrom one home to the other. Transition between homes can be stressful for children as wellas adults. Initial adjustment to new situations can causetension, and children may experience grief and loss over theirparent separation for some time. Children can have difficulty thinking about leaving theircustodial parent and their primary home even for the weekend.And if you are the non-custodial parent, when your children getadjusted to being at your home, it may be difficult for them tothink about leaving you again, even though they're glad to seetheir custodial parent. You can make transition easier for your children by allowingchildren to make choices about what toys, clothes, collections,etc., are kept in each home, establishing regular schedules, andbe flexible enough to accommodate schedule changes. 8. Do keep children familial ties. Children benefit from keeping the familial ties in their lifethat were meaningful and important to them prior to the divorce.Such familial ties may not be limited to parents but may alsoinclude extended family, such as grandparents. 9. Develop a parenting plan. Planning how to care for children after separation can be aconfusing and difficult task. This is the reason that madeparenting plan so important. Having a plan can make it easierfor you and your ex-spouse to work together as parents andreduce the amount of conflict between you. One way to help yourchildren adjust to become an effective parent is to havea plan, so create one for your child. 10. Do create a generally supportive and cooperative in-betweenparent relationship. Children benefit to the greatest when the in-between parentrelationship is generally supportive and cooperative. Thoughmost parents know this, they find it hard to set aside theiranger and resentment toward the other parent making co-parentinghardly possible. Try to remedy this situation by getting my freeebook on cooperative parenting and divorce. Visit my website andget your free "8 Essential Steps to Cooperative Parenting andDivorce" ebook. Copyright by Ruben Francia. All Rights Reserved. Publishing Rights: You have permission to publish this articleelectronically, in print, in your ebook or on your website, freeof charge, as long as the author's information and web link areincluded at the bottom of the article. The web link should beactive when the article is reprinted on a web site or in anemail. Minor edits and alterations are acceptable so long asthey do not distort or change the content of the article. About the author:Ruben Francia is an author of an indispensable parentingguide ebook, entitled "101 Ways To Raise Your 'Divorced'Children To Success". Get his other ebook for FREE, "8 EssentialSteps to Cooperative Parenting and Divorce." Visit his web siteat http://www.101divorceparenting.com
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