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Divorced Parent
By Ruben Francia, Fri Dec 9th
I have seen some parents consciously distance theirchildren from the other parent? Such actions may only bejustified when there is a genuine concern about the children'semotional or physical safety when with the other parent. But inthe absence of past domestic violence, drug or alcohol abuse,physical, sexual, or emotional child abuse, alienating childrenfrom the other parent will never bring any good. Other parents may subconsciously alienate children from theother parent. But whether there is a deliberate move or not toalienate children from the other parent, the same thing willhappen. Children will always suffer. Remember children generallyfare best when they have the emotional support and ongoinginvolvement of both parents and parental alienation must be putto an end. The good news is we can prevent the devastating effects ofparental alienation. The key is to begin recognizing thesymptoms of parental alienation. After reading the list below,don't get discouraged when you notice that some of your ownbehaviors have been alienating. Instead, let the list helpsensitize you to how you are behaving and what you are saying toyour children.
1. Denying the existence of the other parent. This includeactions like denying other parent photo's within children'sroom, avoiding conversations with other parent, ignoring theother parent in public and refusing visitation. 2. Criticizing the other parent. This include actions likespeaking negatively about the other parent in front of thechildren, speaking negatively about the other parent's familyand friends, and comparing your children to the other parent ina negative way. 3. Placing your children in the middle. This include actionslike using them as a messenger, having them act as spies,discussing adult issues in front of or with your children andarguing in front of the children. 4. Setting up the other parent to fail. This include actionslike failing to inform the other parent of important events,laughing at or making jokes about the other parent, encouragechildren to disobey other parent and blaming the on theother parent. 5. Resisting or refusing to cooperate by not allowing the otherparent access to school or medical records and schedules ofextracurricular activities. 6. Telling the child "everything" about the marital relationshipor reasons for the is alienating. The parent usuallyargues that they are "just wanting to be honest" with theirchildren. This practice is destructive and painful for thechild. The alienating parent's
motive is for the child to thinkless of the other parent. 7. Asking the child to choose one parent over another parentcauses the child considerable distress. Typically, they do notwant to reject a parent, but instead want to avoid the issue.The child, not the parent, should initiate any suggestion forchange of residence. 8. Refusing to be flexible with the visitation schedule in orderto respond to the child's needs. 9. A parent suggesting or reacting with hurt or sadness to theirchild having a good time with the other parent will cause thechild to withdraw and not communicate. They will frequently feelguilty or conflicted not knowing that it's "okay" to have funwith their other parent. 10. When parents physically or psychologically rescue thechildren when there is no threat to their safety. This practicereinforces in the child's mind the illusion of threat or danger,thereby reinforcing alienation. Now that you have read the above list, don't get discouragedwhen you notice that some of your own behaviors have beenalienating. Just think and internalize that children generallyfare best when they have the emotional support and ongoinginvolvement of both parents. Therefore, parental alienation mustbe put to end. Both parents have to work as co-parents. If you are having difficulty parenting with your children'sother parent then make your move now. Remedy your situation bygetting a free copy of my ebook "8 Essential Steps ToCooperative Parenting and Divorce." Likewise, you can learneffective parenting from my other ebook "101 Ways ToRaise 'Divorced' Children to Successfully." For moreinformation, please visit my website. With the above information, I hope you will become an empowereddivorced parent and believe that you can raise healthy, happyand successful children even if you're divorce. Copyright by Ruben Francia. All Rights Reserved. Publishing Rights: You have permission to publish this articleelectronically, in print, in your ebook or on your website, freeof charge, as long as the author's information and web link areincluded at the bottom of the article. The web link should beactive when the article is reprinted on a web site or in anemail. Minor edits and alterations are acceptable so long asthey do not distort or change the content of the article. About the author:Ruben Francia is an author of an indispensable parentingguide ebook, entitled "101 Ways To Raise Your 'Divorced'Children To Success". Get his other ebook for FREE, "8 EssentialSteps to Cooperative Parenting and Divorce." Visit his web siteat http://www.101divorceparenting.com
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