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What Divorce Parenting Practices Is Best Appropriate For
By Ruben Francia, Fri Dec 9th
It is being said that how bad or how well children go throughthe depends on how the situation is handled. And believeme when I tell you that there is an appropriate divorceparenting practices for children of any age for them to behealthy, happy and successful despite you're divorce. It simplemeans that divorced parents can raise healthy, happy andsuccessful children. Here, in this article, we will focus on thebest appropriate parenting practices for school-agechildren. First, you need to understand how school-age children react todivorce. Knowing how school-age children react to willbring you to a better position of knowing the best appropriatedivorce parenting practices you can do for your child. So, howis school-age children affected by divorce? School-age children are old enough to understand that they arein pain because of their parents' separation. They are tooyoung, however, to understand or to control their reactions tothis pain. They may experience grief, embarrassment, resentment,divided loyalty and intense anger.
Elementary school children begin to understand that divorcemeans their parents will no longer be married and live together,and that their parents no longer love each other. Children worries about the future. They fear nobody will bethere to pick him/her up from school and take care of them. Itis common for them to ignore school and friendships. Children also become aware of their parents as individuals,often fear the loss of parents, and feel sadness and angerbecause of their parents' or separation. Self-blame,depression, and attempts to reunite parents are not uncommon inthis age group. Knowing how school-age children reach to divorce, I'm sure bynow ideas flow into your mind on what parentingpractices is best appropriate for school-age children. To add upto your list of ideas, here below are some parentingpractices that is best for your child. · Explain what is happening over and over again. Children thisage are confused easily. In simple terms, explain where yourchild will live, with whom, where the departing parent willlive, and who will provide care when both parents areunavailable. · Encourage your child to talk about how he/she feels. Besensitive to children's fears. Let your child know that he orshe can openly talk to you about the ups and downs of yourseparation or divorce. · Read books together about children and divorce. Use books tohelp your child talk about feelings. · Answer all questions about the changes, and keep lines ofcommunication open. Make sure your child feels like he or shecan ask you questions and get answers about why the divorcehappened and what to expect. · Plan special time together. Set aside special time to spendwith your child but be careful not to make promises you may notbe able to keep. · Repeatedly tell children that they are not responsible for thedivorce. Children need to be reassured that the breakup wasn'ttheir fault. · Reassure children of how their needs will be met and of whowill take care of them. · Reassure children that everything will be ok, just different.Children are invariably frightened
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and confused by divorce. It'sa threat to their security. Provide extra hugs and kisses andtell your child that you and other adults will always be near tolove and protect · Talk to your child's day-care provider about the divorce. Shewill better understand your child's possible regressivebehaviors and will likely offer extra support. · Talk to your child's teachers or school counselors about thedivorce. They may then better understand possible learning orbehavioral problems and will likely offer extra support. · Keep daily routines intact. Children feel more secure whenthere is a standard routine. Stick with bedtimes, no matter atwhich home the children are. Have some consistent chores. Havesome time committed to the child, which is treated as sacred. · Respect, but monitor, your child's privacy. · Discourage reconciliation fantasies. Avoid dinners, outings,or holiday celebrations with your ex-spouse; they only fuel yourchild's fantasies. Instead, emphasize the finality of divorce · Be sensitive to children signs of depression and fear. Seekprofessional help if depression is prolonged or intense. · Help non-custodial parent stay involve. Let non-custodialparent maintain a regular presence such as a phone call severaltimes each week, messages sent on video or audiotapes. · Plan a schedule of time for children to spend with their otherparent. Be supportive of children's ongoing relationship withthe other parent. Remember that children generally fare bestwhen they have the emotional support and ongoing involvement ofboth parents. If you have difficulty relating to your formerspouse then get your free copy of my ebook "8 Essential Steps toCooperative Parenting and Divorce." Just visit my website andget the said ebook for free. You can learn more parenting practices appropriate forchildren of any age in my ebook "101 Ways To Raise 'Divorced'Children to Successfully." This ebook is a parentingguide that offers many proven ways that will not only help youhelp your children but will also guide you on how to deal withyourself and your former ex-spouse for your children's sake.Thus, giving you complete information on how to raise healthy,happy and successful children even if you're divorced. For moreinformation, please visit my website. With the above information, I hope you will become an empowereddivorced parent and believe that you can raise healthy, happyand successful children even if you're divorce. Copyright by Ruben Francia. All Rights Reserved. Publishing Rights: You have permission to publish this articleelectronically, in print, in your ebook or on your website, freeof charge, as long as the author's information and web link areincluded at the bottom of the article. The web link should beactive when the article is reprinted on a web site or in anemail. Minor edits and alterations are acceptable so long asthey do not distort or change the content of the article. About the author:Ruben Francia is an author of an indispensable parentingguide ebook, entitled "101 Ways To Raise Your 'Divorced'Children To Success". Get his other ebook for FREE, "8 EssentialSteps to Cooperative Parenting and Divorce." Visit his web siteat http://www.101divorceparenting.com
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